Raising Students and My Kid.

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Being a school administrator isn’t easy.

From the kindergarten student who cries for no apparent reason to the odd smell emanating from the boys’ locker room, each day brings new and sometimes gross challenges (on behalf of the 1980’s, I want to say we don’t use the word “gross” often enough anymore).

Now, I’m not complaining (maybe a little about that smell…), because I realize every profession has its ups and down.

I was reading online (so you know it’s true) that only 45% of people are satisfied with their jobs.  That’s down from 61% in 1987.Fork

I don’t know if I believe this or not.

What I do believe is 55% of people (at least) like to complain.

About their jobs.

And bosses.

And paychecks.

And lack of benefits.

And everything else in their lives.

I think this is human nature.

Me?  I like having a job.  Any job.

I prefer ones that pay well, but I’ve also enjoyed my jobs that didn’t.

I would definitely count myself in the group of 45% who are satisfied.

But I do have one complaint.

There’s not always enough time to do my job at school, my job at home, and accomplish other things.

This week I had a choice.  Help build a school in the Dominican Republic or coach the Evil Spawn’s basketball team.

Seems like an easy choice.

Build the school.  Make the world a better place.

It’s a no brainer.

Especially if you’ve seen the Evil Spawn miss a layup (she’s killing me!).

Except for the fact I always wonder if I’m spending too much time helping raise other people’s kids and not enough time on my own.

I’m guessing if you ask the evil one, she would say  a break from me would be a wonderful thing (in fact, she’s mentioned this a time or two… or 957).

But I still wonder, so I passed on the construction project (I hope I get another chance).

The building a school/basketball games is an extreme example, but I think all educators are faced with similar decisions on a daily basis.

How do you balance raising your kid and still be totally committed to helping other people raise theirs?

Maybe I shouldn’t worry about this.  Maybe I should focus on what I can control.  Like that smell.  It’s a combination of feet, old yogurt, and cat food.  It’s really quite disturbing.

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8 Responses to “Raising Students and My Kid.”

  1. Bill
    on Nov 27th, 2011
    @ 6:50 pm

    Spent 15 years coaching three sports each year most of the time! Fact is I neglected. Both my wife and kids and. NOw regret it having spent invested it hundreds thousands of others. How sad…

  2. Carla
    on Nov 27th, 2011
    @ 8:53 pm

    My children accept who I am and the fact that I give to my students, but ultimately, it is every one of the six of them I would die for and they know this. They are giving individuals and I am proud of that. I have always worked for an administrator who said, “Family is first.” Now I am the administrator saying the very same thing.

  3. Cyndi
    on Nov 27th, 2011
    @ 9:08 pm

    My first years of teaching kept me at school until 11:00 at night. That’s when the custodial staff left, so I had to leave the building. Then I went to a luncheon where the keynote speaker, a Texas State Teacher of the Year, said, “Cultivate a life outside of teaching. Be a well rounded person to be an amazing teacher. Don’t stay every night until 6:00. YOU CAN ONLY TEACH WHEN THE KIDS ARE THERE!” Now I put in 110 % when the kids are there! Then I go live the rest of my amazing life.

  4. Teach_J (Robert Courtemanche)
    on Nov 27th, 2011
    @ 10:38 pm

    I’m with Cyndi. I used to spend a lot of time both at school and at home on school work. After 16 years, I decided to become a leader in my son’s Boy Scout pack. It’s been worth every minute. I still work hard at teaching, just I try to leave every day by 4 pm and I try to leave school at school as often as possible.

  5. Wozza
    on Nov 28th, 2011
    @ 12:56 am

    A dilly of a pickle fer sure, if you want it to be but Carla’s right – family is first, always. Next conundrum?

    I’m more interested in Desire Paths.

    I loved the picture of the Desire Paths on your post. I blogged on this ages ago but let me recap for you – Desire Paths are the tracks we prefer to use even if there are regular paths provided for us. I love this idea – it’s an alternative to the path we’re expected to take!

    Google ‘desire path images’ and you get some great pictures.

    Here’s the link to the relevant post on one of my blogs – http://wozzasplace.blogspot.com/2009/05/like-north-wind-whistling-down-sky-ive.html

  6. Bill
    on Nov 28th, 2011
    @ 8:32 am


    I have fought this battle since I became an administrator 10 years ago. It’s also the reason I have coached Little League for nine years(five as president), youth basketball for eight years, and football for 13 years. I knew that if I was the coach, I had to be there for the games, otherwise it would have been too easy to schedule a work related meeting or event and miss my children’s games.

    It’s difficult to miss my children’s events to attend school events, but I knew that when I took the job. The part that is the most frustrating is when I miss a school event to attend an event for my child (My son’s Honor Society induction was much more important than a chorus concert) and I’m criticized for it. I love seeing all of the things that my students do and the parent involvement at my school is great, but I need to be involved in my children’s lives just like the parents of my students are involved in theirs. Unfortunately, not everyone agrees with that sentiment. In fact, a friend of mine is the superintendent of a local district whose graduation ceremonies were the same evening as her son’s graduation ceremonies in a neighboring town. She notified the Board of Education a full year in advance that there would be a conflict and asked if they would be willing to change their date so she could attend both ceremonies. The district she works for refused and some of the BOE members demanded that she attend the graduation at the district she works for. She refused and left a video tribute to the graduates and attended her son’s ceremony instead. There were more than a few community memebrs who were upset that she chose her son over her job. If the superintendent where my children go to school chose his/her job over his/her child’s graduation, I would have serious concerns about that person’s priorities and I’m not sure I would want him/her leading my children’s district!

    Sorry to ramble, but I’m passionate about family and the time we spend with our children.

  7. Sarah Powell
    on Nov 29th, 2011
    @ 1:44 pm

    I can understand your struggle. My dad has been a past for almost 30 years and my mom has been my principal for 4 years out of my school career. Both of my parents have had to make the choice that you made many times.

    Since I have had this experience I can say that I would rather my parents put me first and other things second. If you were to choose doing something else instead of spending time with your child then you are telling that child that they are not important to them and that you do not care.

    I am a children’s pastor and I come in contact with kids that want more attention from their parents all of the time. These kids do not feel loved. This will most likely lead to this kid being rebellious and getting into a lot of trouble.

  8. Merianna Neely
    on Nov 30th, 2011
    @ 9:41 am

    I wonder if many of our parental problems come from the fact that we are having to make calls, emails and meetings and in the process having to be late for baseball games, recitals and picking kids up…

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