Not Every Bad Behavior is Bullying.

The most overused word in education is "bullying".

People throw it around way too easily.  You can make this accusation with absolutely no proof.

And sadly, the accusation comes with a pre-determined sentence of guilt.Bullying.

Every accidental bump, look, or comment becomes "bullying".

We are losing the right to not like each other.

If I disagree with you, I’m a bully.

Before you light up my email inbox or the comment section, please read the rest of this blog.

When a parent says their child is being bullied, I always ask them to define bullying for me.

100 out of 100 times they can’t. 

What they can do and say, is the situation their child is dealing with is "bullying".

And sometimes they are correct.

Other times they are not.

The definition of bullying is… the use of force, threat, or coercion to abuse, intimidate, or aggressively impose domination over others.  The behavior is often repeated and habitual.  One essential prerequisite, by the bully or others, of an imbalance of social or physical power.  Behaviors used to assert such domination include verbal harassment or threat, physical assualt or coercion, and such acts may be directed repeatedly towards particulat targets.

Thanks Wikipedia.

Bullying is horrific and should never be tolerated.

But claiming "bullying" in every situation that doesn’t go our way is also wrong.

Not every fourth grader who doesn’t get to line up first or play on their friends’ team is being "bullied".

Just because someone takes your seat at the lunch table doesn’t make them a bully.

Rude, yes… but not a bully.

As usual, our society has swung too far in identifying "bullies".

For far too many years, this type of behavior was tolerated.

Then we decided it needed to stop (a little late by the way).

That’s great, but we’ve also went way overboard (as usual).

When someone cuts in front of me on the freeway or takes my parking spot, they might be a bully.

But more likely, they are just a jerk.

And that’s life.  I wish it wasn’t, but it is.

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Bullying. Not Good. Not Good at All.

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Can we ever truly get a handle on these types of behaviors?

Are parents helping or hurting?

I’m afraid I have more questions than answers.

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Bullying Victim or Hero. Thoughts?

I’m a little behind on this topic, but as it often happens, school got in the way (it was a very special full-moon week).

In the last few days an Australian boy has rocketed to YouTube fame after a classmate recorded a cell phone video of him body-slamming a smaller boy who’d been picking on him at school.

The clip which was hard for me to watch shows the altercation (although neither boy was hurt in the confrontation).

Both boys got suspended.  The smaller student for 21 days and the young man who fought back, 4 days.

Public support seems to be overwhelmingly on the side of the original victim, whose father said he’d been bullied for years without fighting back (hopefully he won’t have this problem going forward).

This incident seems to have drawn more attention to the problem of childhood bullying.

As an educator, bullying can be one of the most challenging issues we face.

Take a look and share your thoughts on the video or bullying in general.



If this issue wasn’t complex enough, an added layer is a student videotaping the incident on his cell phone.  If the bullying issue was challenging enough, think about dealing with it once it goes viral on YouTube.

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