Not Every Bad Behavior is Bullying.


The most overused word in education is "bullying".

People throw it around way too easily.  You can make this accusation with absolutely no proof.

And sadly, the accusation comes with a pre-determined sentence of guilt.Bullying.

Every accidental bump, look, or comment becomes "bullying".

We are losing the right to not like each other.

If I disagree with you, I’m a bully.

Before you light up my email inbox or the comment section, please read the rest of this blog.

When a parent says their child is being bullied, I always ask them to define bullying for me.

100 out of 100 times they can’t. 

What they can do and say, is the situation their child is dealing with is "bullying".

And sometimes they are correct.

Other times they are not.

The definition of bullying is… the use of force, threat, or coercion to abuse, intimidate, or aggressively impose domination over others.  The behavior is often repeated and habitual.  One essential prerequisite, by the bully or others, of an imbalance of social or physical power.  Behaviors used to assert such domination include verbal harassment or threat, physical assualt or coercion, and such acts may be directed repeatedly towards particulat targets.

Thanks Wikipedia.

Bullying is horrific and should never be tolerated.

But claiming "bullying" in every situation that doesn’t go our way is also wrong.

Not every fourth grader who doesn’t get to line up first or play on their friends’ team is being "bullied".

Just because someone takes your seat at the lunch table doesn’t make them a bully.

Rude, yes… but not a bully.

As usual, our society has swung too far in identifying "bullies".

For far too many years, this type of behavior was tolerated.

Then we decided it needed to stop (a little late by the way).

That’s great, but we’ve also went way overboard (as usual).

When someone cuts in front of me on the freeway or takes my parking spot, they might be a bully.

But more likely, they are just a jerk.

And that’s life.  I wish it wasn’t, but it is.

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Enough Panic. Just Stop It.


America’s National Pastime isn’t baseball.Just Stop It.

Or even football (actually it is football, but for the purposes of this blog it’s not football).

America is obsessed.

Obsessed with fear.  Devastation.  Death.

We seem to have a need to be scared all the time.

We aren’t happy unless we are 97% sure the world is ending.

My theory is this slippery slope began with Y2K.

Then it was amplified during the Iraq War.

Since then, we find all kinds of reasons to be depressed and frightened. 

If banks are in trouble, the world is going to end.

If schools don’t change, the world is going to end.

If a Republican or Democrat is elected President, the world is going to end (depends how you vote).

If it’s going to snow or rain, it is likely to be the storm to end all storms.  And the world is going to end.

Winter isn’t winter unless we get 3 inches of snow and our entire society rushes to the grocery store to buy their  last meal.

The Weather Channel now names each and every storm just so we will be more scared.  A storm is scary.  Storm "Jim Bob" is scarier.

You DO NOT want "Jim Bob" snowing in your front yard!

It sprinkles and the wind blows and people act like the world is on fire and their only way to survive is to purchase one more loaf of bread.  Or gallon of milk.

We are a mess.

We "overworry".  We overmedicate because we overworry.  And we seem to find a strange amount of joy in both.

Stop it.

Grow up.

The world was here before we arrived and it will be here long after we leave it.

We just aren’t that important in the bigger scheme of things.

Actual life isn’t a soap opera or a reality television show.

Actual life is sort of boring.

That’s the way it’s been for thousands of years and that’s the way it should be.

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Life in a Sentence.


The Evil Spawn did something wrong.It's Always Someone Else's Fault.

I point it out, nicely and politely (it’s my story… so I was very nice and very polite).

She says "It’s your fault."

I said "But you did it."

She responds "I know.  It’s just no fun blaming yourself."

And that my friends sums up society as we know it.

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